(CNN) - Just like she did during the first half of the school year, first-grader Coy Mathis wants to use the girls' restroom at her Colorado elementary school. But school officials won't let her.
The reason? Coy is transgendered, born with male sex organs but a child who identifies herself as female.
She dressed as a girl for most of last year. And her passport and state-issued identification recognize her as female.
In December, the Fountain-Fort Carson School District informed Coy's parents that Coy would be barred from using the girls' restrooms at Eagleside Elementary in Fountain after winter break.
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She could instead use the boys' bathroom, gender-neutral faculty bathrooms or the nurse's bathroom, the district said.
In making the decision, the district "took into account not only Coy but other students in the building, their parents, and the future impact a boy with male genitals using a girls' bathroom would have as Coy grew older," attorney W. Kelly Dude said."However, I'm certain you can appreciate that as Coy grows older and his male genitals develop along with the rest of his body, at least some parents and students are likely to become uncomfortable with his continued use of the girls' restroom."
Coy's parents see it differently.
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Mother Kathryn Mathis said, "We were very confused because everything was going so well"*. Mother and father need to visit a Psychologist. In fact, they should be encouraged to begin putting money into a Legal Defense Trust now because this confused little boy will grow up to be a VERY confused and ANGRY young man, and the family that he later bludgeons or who are later his homicide victims at the hands of his knife – they will likely later seek damages because Mommy and/or Daddy thought it was cute to dress him up in girl dresses and encourage him to use the girls' restrooms at school. I'm definitely not an advocate of a 'Big Brother' society. However, we don't allow parents to maintain custody of children when they are putting the child in immediate short-term physical danger ("Timmy, I said NO... you cannot play games in the middle of the Highway").... Why should we, as a Society, sit on the sidelines and watch as these 'parents' effectively shape their child into the next Psychopathic Serial Murderer – only later to lament, 'How on the Earth could that have happened to that child?! Afterall, children are soo innocent!! Why didn't somebody do/say something back then?!" (*http://www.kctv5.com/story/21392246/colorado-school-bars-transgendered-1st-grader-from-using-girls39-restroom?utm_source=moreToExplore&utm_medium=rec&utm_campaign=content)
these people should tell their child, if they care about him, that he is a boy and that he should dress like a boy. They should correct him emotionally instead of leading him in a direction that is wrong. If they want a daughter badly they should try to have more kids. This kid does not know any better and his parents are just something else.
I wonder if perhaps it may be better for this child to just use the gender neutral bathroom until the time comes she can become less male in a physiological way, that is have gender reassignment surgery. Since this is a new thing for schools to deal with, some basis for going forward would make sense and having a gender neutral facility seems an easy solution while we as a society work this all out. While it's not ideal because it puts Coy into a place where she is feeling different, the fact is that for the time being, she is different and it won't help her to treat things otherwise going forward. She'll have a lot more to deal with as time goes on that will be more earth shaking than this. Will her parents be filing lawsuits for the next 11 yrs or will they help her best by helping her see her life will be different at least until she is an adult and has surgery? Either way I wish her and her family peace.
I feel sorry for the confusion this little boy is going through, but, he is a little boy and his parents know this. For his parents to promote anything else is just asking for a life time of trouble. As far as the bathroom issue...I think he should use the bathroom that fits his gender. Other arrangements have been made for him and if those are not satisfactory, then he should remain at home. I think allowing him to use the girls restroom will just open up debate for any boy to use the girls restroom out of spite and then it becomes a privacy and safety issue. I think the school district is right about this one!
The pediatrician that was asked for his opinion live on CNN presented view points that were not grounded in current clinical practice and perspective when treating transgender children. His perspective was mostly grounded in his viewpoints as a father. CNN should be presenting a balanced perspective and if using a Pediatrician expert to present information / opinion, then that person should be speaking from current clinical practice and scientific research. CNN, you can do better!!!!!!
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