June 6th, 2012
05:00 AM ET

My View: My kids won't be on Facebook any time soon

Courtesy Heather ChapmanEditor's note: Heather Chapman is a mother of two and former newspaper and radio journalist who blogs at www.themothertongue.blog.com. You can follow her on Twitter at @mother_tongue.

By Heather Chapman, Special to CNN

(CNN) - In a move that has disaster written all over it, Facebook is exploring the idea of allowing children under the age of 13 to have accounts, The Wall Street Journal reported this week. It seems no coincidence that they're trying to drum up new users right after a disappointing IPO, and the fact that those users are children is a bonus. Youngsters are more likely to be early adopters of new social media sites, so familiarizing them with Facebook good and early is a master marketing coup.

Of course, many kids are already on Facebook - some 7.5 million tweens, according to a 2011 Consumer Reports survey  - so this move is also an attempt to placate worried parents with stepped-up safety features and parent-linked accounts.

I appreciate that, but I still don't want my kids on Facebook yet. My 8-year-old son has begged for an account so he can play Farmville and write messages to friends, but I've remained steadfast: No Facebook till he's 13 and trustworthy.

Facebook can be a great way to connect with friends and far-flung relatives, but for now, he'll just have to visit or pick up the phone. It'll be good for him to practice interpersonal skills like observing body language and taking turns in conversation. And I would way rather he play games at the playground instead of sitting in front of Bejeweled Blitz all day while his muscles wither away.

Speaking of playgrounds: Facebook is mine. I connect with adult friends on there, and sometimes we say things that aren't appropriate for kids. I don't want my son to see my name tagged in a picture that says “It's wine o' clock somewhere!” and I wonder how much of a barrier I could put between my account and his if they're linked.

I'm also concerned that cyberbullying will become a bigger problem than it already is. Bullying peaks in late elementary and early middle school, and I have no doubt that inventive tweens will find ways to get around parent controls to talk smack about each other online. Supposedly, the parent-linked accounts will prevent that, but I'm betting that the kids most likely to bully are going to be the very ones who lack appropriate supervision.


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